I think “role model” relative to many programming communities. I’ve said elsewhere that “not as toxic as other programming communities” is not a high enough bar, we can and should do better. But I also think it’s worth comparing like against like.
I think that, given this is a forum populated almost entirely by incredibly busy people offering help and feedback for free, neutral-helpful is pretty great. I think being helpful is kind. Giving people links and advice on how to find solutions on their own is also kind. There’s the adage, “Give a person a fish and you feed them for a day. Teach a person to fish and you feed them for life.”
Given a bunch of recent posts are (rightly I think) offering critiques, it’s worth highlighting that a lot of people here are really kind in trying to teach folks to fish. But I’m also trying to say is that we need to remember that if a person is starving, it would be much better to give them some fish, preferably pre-cooked, before handing them a pole and trying to show them how to bait a hook.