It would be great if you did not try to base this discussion on stories and metaphors like this, because they are not very pertinent and just muddle the whole issue.
Eg a coworker is someone I have an ongoing cooperative relationship with in the workplace, enforced by social standards and the business culture of our common employer, which does not apply to most people on this forum. If you relate to total strangers you just met online and your coworkers the same way, that’s fine, I don’t.
Again, I am not sure I am decoding the metaphor correctly, but I don’t think that participating in a technical discussion in a civil manner, consistent with the community guidelines, can be construed as aggressive. We may just have to agree to disagree about this.
That said, I don’t think it is helpful to label behavior “rude” and “aggressive” (you have used both labels in this discussion) just because you would do it differently. The implication is that people who give help here, but do not go out of their way to be extra friendly by your standards, are rude and aggressive.