No one claims that, if the 3rd party isn’t the one distributing the GPL extension.
Suppose a 2nd party (you) takes GPL code from a 1st party (me), and uses it to write a dynamically linked plug-in for a proprietary program by a 3rd party. Depending on the details, I (1st party) could argue that you (2nd party) are violating my GPL terms by distributing it in your plug-in (since nothing else grants you permission to re-distribute work derived from my code). I have no claim against the 3rd party, however, unless they bundle your extension with their program and distribute them together.
(And if you distribute a GPL plugin that you wrote entirely yourself, then you are being somewhat self-contradictory in your license terms and you probably should add a clarification, but it’s somewhat academic since as the copyright holder you are free to violate your own terms.)
PS. This is all very déjà vu for me … I remember seeing almost identical arguments back on Slashdot and similar forums nearly 30 years ago. And yet we still don’t see any major entity/corporation distributing proprietary software along with GPLed dynamic libraries. (Of course, you will find GPL violations by random individuals and tiny volunteer projects on a regular basis. But mostly those aren’t worth hiring lawyers over.)